I’m a father. That’s not in and of itself an impressive feat. Any 16-year old who doesn’t use protection can be a father. Kevin Federline is a father. Tiger Woods is a father. Jon Gosselin is a father. The role of father has been forever maligned by these kinds of fathers.
Having a good father is one of those things you don’t appreciate unless you don’t have one. It’s hard to say what makes a good father. But every stripper and adult film star can tell you what makes a bad one.
This year I’m celebrating my first Father’s Day as a father. I’m not sure what to expect. It’s just a Sunday. My first true Father’s Day was the day my daughter was born, all those months ago. That day I felt the fear, the shock and ultimately the responsibility that comes with the role. Fatherhood is a big deal. My presence, my absence will forever form the character of my daughter. It will be entirely my fault if she has any “Daddy Issues.” She’ll never of course have any Mommy Issues.
So I try to be a good father. Good fathers deserve their own day.
Father’s Day never seemed like a big deal. There’s no universal meal observed for Father’s Day. The restaurant industry doesn’t see lineups or extra tips on Father’s Day. Economically it’s well behind Mother’s Day.
Do you like ties, golf, or backyard grilling? If so, advertising says you may be a father. And the aforementioned are likely gifts you will see on your day. I neither golf nor wear ties so most Father’s Day presents and jokes on the related Hallmark cards don’t seem to apply. Any gift that seems like a bad idea for Mother’s Day is probably a good idea for Father’s Day.
I do however BBQ. So I’m 1 for 3. BBQ is as close to a Father’s Day meal as it gets. Though you’re still cooking for yourself on your own day. Not sure making mom cook Mother’s Day brunch would be a good idea. But dads don’t mind grilling their own meats.
Ultimately Father’s Day is like a birthday with responsibility and no cake. It’s a day that I’ll spend with my wife and my daughter. It won’t be unlike any other Sunday. Because every day is Father’s Day and most of the job is just showing up. The real test of being a father is the follow-through. It’s the same thing you need for a good golf swing. Right, Tiger?